Who are you at your worst when hurt by your partner, overwhelmed, and defensive? Do you get high and mighty, or do you retreat into a shell? Do you blow things up, or do you melt down?

Use the grids below to identify your losing strategies.

*Adapted from Terry Real’s Relationship Grid

These 5 Losing Strategies lead to relational turmoil. The 5 Better Strategies repair and sustain relationships.

What are your losing strategies and go-to better strategies? Happiness in your relationship hinges on your self-awareness and willingness to create better strategies.